Parents have a magnificent but limited chance to teach children how to lead just lives that because they are firmly rooted in fairness will help them be happy, Judge Judy Sheindlin believes. * Resting in peace is a gift smart and considerate parents give their children, in the form of a decent, fair last will and testament. Siblings should work out an agreement to share in their care. * Adult children should nurture aging parents, not condescend to them and their declining abilities. If stepparents have helped bring up children, they should stay close without recriminations (even from new spouses). * As families reconfigure, people should open their hearts, drop grudges and respect connections. "Love your kids more than you hate each other. "Once the decision to divorce has been made, all other decisions must revolve around one single objective the long and short-term best interests of the children" she says. * Making kids crazy in custody battles is reprehensible and can leave a bitter residue of betrayal. * Divorce wars almost always waste time, money and energy: A divorce fight can last longer than the marriage. When they call, she asks, "Are you in a hospital? No? It's not an emergency. Her rule for her five adult children: No calls after 10 p. The parents' final job: kicking the babies out of the nest when it's time. Too bad, Sheindlin says: Kids are innocents, and adults need to adjust. * Children take time and cause inconvenience. It is also "for adults," not for whiners who quickly regress to infantile or adolescent behavior. * Conjugal compromise is part of the deal: "If life were fair, men would have stretch marks. In the long run, it doesn't matters if Grandpa comes with his new wife. Avoid foolish fights about who pays or about seemingly complicated family arrangements. * Weddings are a day in a life marriage is a life itself. * Couples who live together without benefit of official union doom themselves to trouble when they share budgets as well as bed: Cohabiting is not the same as marriage. A tragedy or scare may set a person straight, "but then it wears off, so every once in a while people need a sort of booster shot. Negative thoughts waste energy, Sheindlin says. "The most important thing is that people get the content, which is that children do come first. "You can forgive rudeness sometimes when the message is important," says psychologist Young. "I would never interrogate a child or a spouse the way I would a litigant. "It's probably not right to talk this tough in real life," concedes Sheindlin. You brought him into your son's life, and it would be terribly unfair to cut him off from the only father he knows.
"June, you're 100% right about one thing: The guy is a putz. The judge always argues for reality in her own special way, as when she sums up a case in "Keep It Simple": His appointment system, called open access or advanced access, operates on a few simple rules, chief among them, “Do today’s work today.” The result is an appointment system in which everybody wins." But her questions cut to the broken heart of family matters. By standardizing appointment types, working down the backlog of previously scheduled appointments and using simple repeated measurements to monitor the system, he demonstrated that it is possible to reduce staff time and hassles, simplify the physician’s life and get patients in when they want to be seen.
They require an enormous array of appointment types and expensive telephone triage work that do not serve anyone very well. 1, 2, 3 He realized that most current appointment systems are unnecessarily complex and inefficient. Mark Murray, MD, has demonstrated in many practices that applying systems thinking to the problems of standard appointment systems allows major improvements that benefit each of those participants in medical care. Most appointment systems are problematic for receptionists, physicians, nurses and patients alike. A good example of this is the usual office appointment system. Systems thinking can dramatically improve what few “systems” we do have.
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